As a coach, it can be frustrating to see your coaching clients not making any progress. You see, the whole point of coaching is to help clients get from where they are to where they want to be. Ideally, as you go along with your coaching sessions, you should be able to see improvements no matter how minute they are. You should see your clients move towards the direction of their goals. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. While there are clients who seem to be sprinting from Point A to Point B, there are those who appear immobilised. When this happens, some of you may tend to lay the blame on your clients and assume that it’s probably because of their beliefs or certain blockages from their past that are stopping them from making progress.
What you failed to consider is the possibility that perhaps the reason why your clients aren’t progressing is because of you. What makes you a great coach is if you start to look within yourself and figure out what you may be doing wrong instead of blaming others. Today, that’s what I want you to do.
Firstly, are you making it all about yourself instead of them? There will be times during your coaching sessions when your client will give you an example of something that happened to them in the past. It is wrong for you to say, “Oh that’s happened to me too only much worse.” This is not a wise response and you shouldn’t be doing this as a coach.
If you believe making your story worse than theirs is going to make them feel better, you are wrong because when you respond in this manner, you are making it about yourself and doing so defeats the purpose of your coaching. In coaching, it’s not about you; it’s about your client. So make it about them, listen to them, empathise with them, and know what their pains are. You don’t always have to reciprocate with your own example of what’s happened in your life because if you focus on you, you are making them feel that their situation is insignificant.
Secondly, we tend to talk and not listen. Active listening is one of the attributes that make a great coach. I understand that some of you may be tempted to reply right away and give feedback and share with them your learnings, expertise and knowledge but this isn’t always the immediate solution. You have to let them talk first; let them add to the end of their sentences instead of butting in. When they pause, be patient to wait. Instead of offering your solutions, you should say, “Tell me more.” Extracting as much information from them as possible will help you get to the bottom of the problem and will allow you to come up with the necessary strategies needed to address it. So make sure you’re not always talking.
Thirdly, don’t tell them what to do. Great coaches don’t spoon-feed their clients. If you want them to be successful, you need to teach them to be resourceful. Challenge their creativity by asking them thought-provoking questions that will lead them to come up with their own solutions. When you tell them what to do, the next time they encounter a problem, they will rely on you. Instead of thinking for themselves, they will call you for help. Take inspiration from the proverb, “Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day; teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime.” As their coach, that’s what you should be doing. You have to teach them to be problem-solvers, to be resourceful and creative until they can build enough confidence and learn to trust on their own ability.
So if your coaching clients are not progressing, it’s probably because you’re doing these three things.
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