Are you the shy type? Before you answer that, let’s define shyness first. According to the American Psychological Association, shyness is the tendency to feel awkward, worried or tense during social encounters, especially with unfamiliar people. If you are nodding as you are reading this, that’s okay. There is nothing wrong with being shy. Most people are shy on certain occasions. It only becomes a problem when it stops you from interacting with other people to the point that it will lead to problems in both your personal and professional relationships.
In my years in the coaching industry, I’ve coached dozens of individuals who were inherently shy. But while this emotion can be considered normal, when you’re in business especially in the coaching business, assertiveness and confidence are what gets you to your goal and being shy doesn’t. If shyness is the barrier that’s keeping you from achieving your full potential then it’s time we address that. You can start overcoming your shyness with these three easy steps.
Step 1: Acknowledge your shyness
You can never overcome a problem, whether it’s being fearful or being shy, unless you acknowledge it exists. And if you resist it, you’re only making it worse. So if you are aware of your shyness, acknowledge and accept it.
Step 2: Identify shyness triggers
There are certain factors that trigger you to feel shy. Identifying what these are makes it easier for you to deal with them and ultimately overcome them. For instance, if you are anxious about what other people may say about you, it’s probably because you are too focused on yourself not to mess up. You end up obsessing about what you are going to say or how you’re going to act believing that other people would do too. It could also be because of a poor self-image. This usually happens when we feed on the negative voices in our head. Once you’ve identified these triggers, it’s time for step three.
Step 3: Challenge Yourself To Conquer Them
Shyness can be conquered. Just because you are shy now, doesn’t mean you are going to be that way forever. There are ways to conquer this. Like in the example in Step 2 about poor self-image, what you can do is tune out those voices and think about all the positive qualities you have and ponder on them. This helps build up your confidence.
People who are shy usually just brush it off. Nonetheless, when you’re in the coaching business or if you aspire to be a coach, shyness can be a problem because when you coach, you’ll be spending most of your time speaking to people.
If you are interested in becoming an amazing coach, I am inviting you to my three-day workshop called Grow Your Coaching Biz on May 10 to 12, 2019 on the Gold Coast. In this fun-filled and action-packed workshop, I will share with you my strategies and processes to attract high paying coaching engagements and to become the coach you have always wanted to be.